Online Couples Counseling

Online Individual & Couples Therapy Across Ten States

Stop Having The Same Fight And Feel Like A Team Again

Somewhere along the way, the two of you stopped
being on the same side

Maybe you're having the same fight on a loop, the one that starts about the dishes or the schedule and ends somewhere much older and more familiar. Or maybe there's no fight left at all, just a polite distance between two people who run a household and a calendar and used to be in love.

Once the kids are asleep and the dishes are done, you end up on opposite ends of the couch on your phones because it's easier than another conversation that goes nowhere. You still love each other. You just can't seem to find your way back to each other.

The Same Fight And A Distance That Keeps Growing

Sound familiar to either of you?

You keep having the same argument, no matter how it starts

Conversations turn into fights or you avoid them to keep the peace

You feel more like roommates and co-parents than partners

One of you brings it up, the other shuts down, and nothing changes

You miss being wanted and you're not sure how to say so

If that's the two of you, you're not broken and it doesn't mean you picked wrong. This is one of the most common places couples land and it's very workable to change.

It's Possible To Feel Close Again

Picture what it could be like to:

Talk about the hard stuff without it turning into a fight

Feel heard by your partner instead of managed or dismissed

Make up after a fight instead of letting it sit for days

Want each other again, not just coexist

Face things as a team instead of as opponents

Look Forward To Each Other Again

Imagine the friction starting to drain out of the ordinary moments

Imagine the friction starting to drain out of the ordinary moments. A disagreement stays a disagreement instead of turning into a fight about everything that's ever gone wrong between you. You catch each other's eye across the room again, the way you used to.

You start to trust that you can bring up the hard thing and be met, not braced against. The silences get warmer. And in small, ordinary ways, you remember that you like this person you're spending your life with, not just that you love them.

Couples I Especially Understand

I work with all kinds of couples and there are a few situations I understand especially well:

Dual-career couples who are crushing it everywhere except with each other

Couples whose relationship is straining under a serious diagnosis, illness, or caregiving for a parent

Couples finding their way back to each other after addiction has been part of the picture

Wherever you're starting from, we begin with what's happening between the two of you right now.

How Couples Counseling Works

Couples sessions happen online with both of you on the call and run about 75 minutes. I'm not a referee and I won't take sides. I'm warm, direct, and very human and I'll help the two of you truly hear each other instead of defending your corners.

Here's roughly how it goes

01

We start with what keeps happening between you, the loop you can't seem to break.

02

We slow the fight down enough to see what's underneath it for each of you.

03

You learn ways to talk and repair that don't leave a mark.

04

We rebuild the friendship and the affection the conflict has been burying.

05

As we go, you start to feel like partners again instead of opponents.

Most of my couples work draws on the Gottman Method, an approach built on decades of research into what keeps couples close. In practice that means we get specific about your patterns and trade them for ways of connecting that hold up long after you leave the session.

FAQ

Common Questions Before We Start

Do things have to be really bad before couples counseling is worth it?

No. Couples who come in before resentment piles up usually have an easier time of it. Earlier is better, but it's rarely too late to start.

What if one of us isn't sure about therapy?

That's common and it's okay. One hesitant partner doesn't doom the whole thing. We go at a pace that feels safe for both of you and a lot of skeptics end up glad they came.

Will you take sides or tell us who's wrong?

No. This isn't about blame. My job is to help each of you understand what the other is experiencing and give you better ways to handle the hard moments together.

Do you only work with couples dealing with illness or caregiving?

Not at all. I work with couples on all the usual things, like communication, distance, trust, and feeling like roommates, and I also have deep experience with couples facing a health crisis or caregiving.

Get Back On The Same Side

Free 15-Minute Consultation

If you'd like to enjoy being a couple again instead of just running the household together, let's talk. Book a free 15-minute consultation and we'll talk about what's going on between you and how I can help the two of you.

You can schedule a time that works for you.