Online Counseling for Caregivers

Online Individual & Couples Therapy Across Ten States

Take Care Of Them Without Losing Yourself

When Caring for Someone Else Leaves Little Room for You

Caregiving has a way of taking over your whole life, usually so gradually that you don't notice until there's almost nothing left that's just yours. Maybe you're looking after an aging parent on top of your job, your kids, your marriage, and everything else you were already juggling. The medications and the appointments and the what-ifs run in the background of everything and somewhere in there the person you used to be got quietly shelved.

You can't take the trip because there's no one to cover. You watch friends your age doing the things you thought you'd be doing by now. And underneath the love, which is real, there's an exhaustion that doesn't lift, a resentment you'd never say out loud, and a guilt that shows up the second you think about yourself for one minute.

Your Whole Life Runs Through Someone Else's Needs Now

Any of this sound familiar?

You can't remember the last time you did something just because you wanted to

Every plan runs through one question first: who covers things if you're not there

Some days you resent the whole thing and then feel terrible for it

You watch friends travel and live their lives and wonder when it's your turn

You're running on empty but the needs never stop, so neither do you

None of that makes you a bad caregiver. It makes you a human one, doing one of the hardest things there is. And that's a lot to hold without any support of your own.

Get Some Of Your Own
Life Back

You can take care of someone you love and still have a self.

Imagine being able to:

Have one place where you can be honest about how hard this is

Get practical help setting limits and asking for support

Put down some of the guilt you've been carrying for needing things yourself

Reconnect with the parts of your life that are still yours

Find a pace you can keep, instead of pushing through on fumes

Have More Of Yourself Left At The End Of The Day

Picture a version of this where you've got something left for yourself. You still show up for the person you love but you're not the only one holding it all, because you've got support and a few limits that actually stick. You call your sister back. You take the weekend with a plan in place and you don't spend the whole time apologizing for it.

The guilt loosens its grip, enough that wanting a life of your own stops feeling like a betrayal. The resentment has somewhere to go besides your own chest. And slowly you remember the parts of yourself that were here before any of this, the ones still waiting for you to come back to them.

The caregiving doesn't disappear. It just stops being the only thing you are.

How Counseling For
Caregivers Works

Sessions are online, one-on-one, and about 75 minutes long. Think of that time as yours, not one more thing on your list for somebody else.

Here's the shape it usually takes:

01

We start with how you're doing, not how the person you care for is doing.

02

We give the guilt, the resentment, and the grief somewhere to go, without you having to apologize for any of it.

03

We get practical about boundaries, asking for help, and a schedule that leaves something in the tank for you.

04

We protect your own identity, so there's still a you underneath the caregiving.

05

As we go, you find a way to do this that you can sustain, for as long as it lasts.

I'm a caregiver myself, for my own mother, so I'm not guessing at what this is like. I know the hire-a-sitter panic, the grace you have to keep handing yourself, the days it all feels like too damn much. We do this with hope, a little humor, and a lot less judgment than you've been aiming at yourself.

FAQ

Common Questions Before We Start

Do I have to be completely burned out to come?

No. You don't have to wait until there's nothing left. The earlier we start, the more we can keep this season from hollowing you out.

I feel guilty even thinking about therapy for myself. Is that normal?

Completely. Almost every caregiver I work with feels it. Looking after your own mind is part of being able to keep going and it's allowed to matter on its own too.

Can therapy help if my situation isn't going to change?

Yes. We may not be able to change the circumstances, but we can change how supported, steady, and like yourself you feel inside them.

Do you work with people caring for someone other than a parent?

Yes. Whether it's a parent, a partner, a sibling, or a child who needs daily care, you're welcome here.

Take Something Off Your Plate

Free 15-Minute Consultation

If you'd like a way to do this that doesn't run you into the ground, let's talk. Book a free 15-minute consultation and we'll talk about how you're really doing and what you most need right now.

You can schedule a time that works for you.